Let’s make FRIDAYS, SOP nights. :) Sharing Of Problems
Pag-ibig Ang Lunas.
My views: Long-Distance Relationships.
Hitherto, the issue of LDR is still as fresh as it was first baked. It’s an undying issue for teenagers, maids and guards, welders and store female prepaid loaders. Well, I believe that LDR isn’t really an issue of love (aside from doubt, insecurity and paranoia), but an issue of social status.
FOR RICH PEOPLE, THIS TERM IS A JOKE. – They can afford to travel without stressing themselves about the fare. Anytime, they can reach their loved-ones without cramming or saving. They have the moolah.
FOR NOT-SO-FORTUNATE PEOPLE, THIS IS SOMETHING SERIOUS. – The sudden, unexpected feeling of loneliness kills your love, gently. Especially if spending your money to see him/her is not as practical as saving it for your tomorrow.
Let’s admit it. Love is a temporary, magnitude of hearts. (That’s why bed shakes when you guys make love XD) Once the scale can’t longer boom, you need to shake yourself to make everything, imaginarily work.
When the thin line between love and hate finally evaporates, the words melt into each other and become “late.” Everything must go.
What do you think? LDR works? Or not?
It depends on the people involved if this thing would work. As for me, LDR=shit.
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No, LDR is something I want to avoid, for the very reason that anything can happen if you don’t watch your partner too often.
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I “was” just in this situation. All I can say is that it takes a shitload of trust and patience to get through. But there are other environmental factors that you are powerless against. But I’ve had a friend who last 5 yrs, and eventually married the guy and has a kid with him and they’re still together.
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SOT FTW.
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It works if you put your heart into it and if you have the sense of commitment in you.
Been in one for about a year (with a Korean girl btw), it was fun and heartwarming, but what makes it challenging is the culture itself or the parents who aren’t accustomed to our local culture.
Adapting to other cultures and their language can take you very far.
Though if your ka-ldr is a westerner, that’s also awesome too since it’s easier knowing what she wants and needs.
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Did you have a lot of interracial sex chat?
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LDR’s will never work.
And I don’t think it’s a joke for rich people, not all of them anyway. Even if they have the money, most likely they don’t have the TIME to always travel to and fro. Rich people tend to be very busy.
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LDRs, in general, do not work.
my ex-boyfriend went to Oz and we were in that situation for 6 months. he said he would be back to celebrate our birthdays. apparently, he could not leave since he needed the citizenship. he would call once a month and we would chat via YM. “kayo pero parang hindi!” kasi nga anlayo sa isat-isa. mahirap. malungkot. masakit. nakakapraning. i wasnt strong enough so i let go (and found new love). i told my (current) boyfriend that if he has plans of leaving, it’s either we get married first (for security and legal purposes) or end our relationship coz i despise reliving those memories. “trust issues” if you wanna call it that… pero mas maganda na yung handa kesa magugulat na lang na either may iba na sya sa ibang bansa o ako ang biglang mabuntis dito sa pinas. hehehe~
although, my colleague and her hubby had an LDR for five years before they got married. yung cousin ko rin 2 years LDR and married na rin sila ng hubby nya.
i guess, depende talaga dun sa trust, communication and what-nots. some people are just better at these attributes than others. kudos to them for that.
ah well. just sharing. nuff serious talk.
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I don’t know about you, but I don’t get into relationships so that I have someone to talk to on YM and on the phone once in a while.
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True… Most people are like that though.
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Most? Maybe in a community of social retards. Some men and a lot of women would find such a situation sufficient, but not most.
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I guess your right. Though that’s how I see people in our neighborhood. Except for the womanizing little man and the old perverted colonel.
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*you’re
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being in a relationship is more than finding someone to talk to.. it’s finding the Yin for your Yang.
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In a LDS for more than a year now. I hate it and it also causes a whole lot of fight. But then again, just think of it like the Filipinos who are married to OFWs. Our country sucks and so sacrifice is done by leaving this shithole. But then again, the time lost can never be obtained again. And time is something I do not have.
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being in an LDR while you’re in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship is somewhat different from an LDR when you are married.
pag bf-gf pa lang kasi, may super-duper-extra-special high tendency na makahanap ka ng ibang ka-relasyon habang wala si bf/gf — this is due to loneliness, lack of communication and trust issues.
pag married na, priorities are set for the family and you are certain that your lover (and possibly kids) will wait for your return. merong tendency na mangaliwa either si mister o si misis, but this only has a very slim chance of happening (unless the wifey is a nymph or the hubby is a satyr).
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I can never for the life of me fathom why men would go to sea and leave their wives and children just to make money, when they only spend a third of their lives actually enjoying the money they earned.
Then again, for some people labor is a motivation to keep going in life.
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may iba kasing trabaho overseas na malaki talaga ang binibigay na salapi. responsible men work hard not only to get a better lifestyle but they also work hard for their kids’ future. this is a long process so it requires a lot of time, effort and money. thus, enjoying the fruits of their labor may only be evident after several years.
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Same here. Even though what Meiko said is true, I cannot do such a thing. You can never take back the time lost, the time where you missed your kids grow and by the time most people retire, they are too old and probably too sick to enjoy life.
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Somehow true, though in my case, I have this logic, if you do not think you would end up together in the end, better end things now. It’ll be a waste of money and time (unless you are after bed skills).
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Most of the comments above states that LDR relationships don’t work.
In my case, it does.
The secret to having a good and loving relationship even when two people are apart from each other is attraction. Im not going to expand the matter since all of you guys would simply troll around here but to make it short.
“Attraction is an investment, not a statement”
Think about it ;)
Ch@Dog
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Maybe if you’re so lonely that the idea of being in a relationship alone brings comfort to you, it works.
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no comment? lol if ‘commitment’ comes in, i cannot guarantee myself, so i don’t get into anything that requires it. so, aheh. pass. lots of envy and admiration to couples who work things out greatly though.
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hmn.
In my case, Its not a bad thing since I value my freedom the most and being in a long distance relationship means less hassle O__o (hey~ I’m not making any sense)
but LOL, I guess.
If you know how wait and hold on to promises, it will work for sure.
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WUTANG!
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PAL = VIRGIN
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